Katie Kovaleski | Therapeutic Life Coaching + Pediatric Sleep Coaching

Therapeutic Life Coaching

Welcome! I’m Katie Kovaleski, a Certified Growth Mindset Life Coach and PSYCH-K® facilitator with Masters’ Degrees in both Mental Health and Marriage & Family Counseling. I enjoy blending therapeutic techniques with PSYCH-K® and intuitive messaging to create a well-rounded, holistic approach for my clients. Let’s get started!

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Katie's Story...

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"Katie's coaching changed my life"

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Anxiety
Phobias
Panic
Past Trauma
Depression
Self-Esteem
Negative Self-talk
Improving Relationships
AND so much more!

PSYCH-K®
is used for:

Anxiety
Phobias
Panic
Past Trauma
Depression
Self-Esteem
Negative Self-talk
Improving Relationships

AND so much more!

Your Journey Begins HERE.

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Therapeutic Life Coach

Most people have negative associations with the wo

Most people have negative associations with the word confrontation. (And those can be reprogrammed with PSYCH-K) And it’s unfortunate because confrontation is a natural, inevitable and necessary part of life.

To me, confrontation doesn’t mean fighting - it means being able to stand still and look the thing that makes you quake in your boots dead in the eye and say exactly what you think, feel and need. And here’s the thing - confrontation or having crucial conversations isn’t something most of us have supportive programming around. Most people find this part of life hard Af or dreadful at best.

But the people who look forward to confrontation and who do it well? They move forward FASTER. Somewhere in life they learned that honing in and sharping their skills of confrontation would serve them well and ultimately function as spring board, allowing them to take quantum leaps quickly and often.

We DRAIN our own energy and resources by spending our time avoiding confrontation. And I mean DRAIN ourselves. Most people spend far more time, energy and resources on avoiding things than they ever do on pursuing them.

Learn how to artfully and gracefully confront things in your life and mountains will begin to move.

If you needed a sign to confront the thing you’ve been avoiding, this is it. And if you quake so hard that you aren’t sure where to begin, DM me, I’ve spent decades learning how to walk into the storm and I’d love to show you the way. 🤍

Let’s talk about…the power of assumption… I

Let’s talk about…the power of assumption…

I was thinking this morning about how impactful assumptions can be and some of the assumptions I’m aware people have made about me over the years.

I remember 20 years ago, after leaving Orlando for college, thinking, I can’t wait to live somewhere that no one knows me and I can be whoever I want to be. I had spent my last few years in high school over coming the effects of being sexually assaulted and couldn’t remember a single day after that I hadn’t wanted to crawl out of my skin and run from this town.

I was eager to escape and although I couldn’t out run my pain, I certainly tried to over come it. At one point in college I remember promising myself that someday I was going to build a life that was so shiny and put together that no one would ever believe it had been any different.

And to some people, that’s what it looked like. Many people assumed that because I didn’t lead with my wounds that there weren’t any. Many people assumed that because my job is about helping people that I’ve never needed help myself. Some people assume that I must have a trust fund because I focused on only pursuing things that lit me up vs. doing it for the money. (there is no trust fund) Some people assume that I never get triggered and always handle things with ease. And I’m sure the list goes on.

The problem with assumption is that it puts up an immediate wall between you and the person you’re making assumptions about. They now have to fit into the narrative you’ve created for them. And it prevents you from really getting to know them.

Here’s what you can assume about me: I don’t ever do it for the money, if I’m at a point where I’m triggered and snappy or unkind, assume I have been pushed to my brink, if I make a decision to end a relationship or partnership assume that I’ve looked at it seven ways to Sunday and have given it a LOT of thought, assume that if you want a seat at my table, you have to initiate communication and crucial conversations, assume that I’m good at my work not because I’ve never felt pain or always make the perfect choices but because I’ve slayed the jungle you’re afraid to go in and I did it (cont in Comts)

Compassion is only helpful if we are able to conne

Compassion is only helpful if we are able to connect with other people’s pain without becoming paralyzed or consumed by it.

There are 3 primary roles in codependency: victim, rescuer & villain (I call this one the burnt out rescuer).

The victim will consume other peoples problems (OPP) and pain and it will depress and paralyze them making them ripe for the rescuers to come along and pick up.

Rescuers will see victims struggling and become consumed by the victims problems, taking them on as their own and ignoring their own needs and issues.

The villain role happens when either the victim or rescuer has had enough of their role and is DONE. This is when we enter compassion burn out, are done helping others bc they never seem to help themselves (rescuer) and/or feel so misunderstood and unseen that we totally shut down. (Victim)

In codependency there are no healthy boundaries, there is a lot of finger pointing and entitlement and true empathy and compassion do not exist.

Compassion and empathy are worthless without boundaries. They become impaired and distorted and a breeding ground for trauma bonding, toxicity and emotional addiction.

If you feel like you’re always someone’s parent in your relationships, you’re in active codependency. And don’t get it twisted - you chose the role of parent for a reason. You’re both actively contributing to the dynamic in order for it to stay alive.

99.9% of relational issues can be traced back to codependent patterns and programming.

This is good news because it makes it easier to understand how to get out of it and can allow you to stop internalizing the problems by thinking they are unique and unmanageable. While you are absolutely a unique human being, your problems usually are not. Your story has immense value and worth AND programming is programming - it can usually be traced back to a handful of similar origin points. Again, this is good news and we can work with a blueprint when getting you out of crappy relational dynamics.

If you’re ready to explore your relationship patterns, DM me, I have openings starting next week and my 10% off special is running for 1 more day!

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