Most people spend a LOT of time creating complex and complicated rituals in an attempt to avoid being triggered or have their wounds poked. Unfortunately, the stress that often compounds from trying to navigate and avoid emotional stress triggers actually just makes us feel worse. Additional stress = nervous system spike = feeling worse. Working
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Being overly busy is a trauma response
“I will feel better if/when _____ happens” “I’ll be able to rest and relax if/when ____ happens” “I just need _____ to happen and then I’ll be/feel okay” Do any of those phrases sound familiar? Those are some of the natural bi-product thoughts that come from being hyper-vigilant. The trouble is, once one thing is
Why Urgency is a Liar
When it comes down to it, very few things are actually urgent. If we are feeling a sense of urgency to respond or take immediate action, it’s always worth checking in with ourselves and calming our nervous system down. If you typically experience anxiety, stress or indecisiveness (often a side effect of anxiety) consider that
It’s Okay to say NO
Staying around something that makes you feel like sh*t until you’re able to tolerate it doesn’t yield any accolades. It just means you’ve gotten used to having a stress response. And it’s part of the old toughen up/just put up with it programming that is antiquated at best and abusive at worst. It’s okay to
Choosing Courage over Fear
When our mind’s shift into comparison mode, we can be certain that fear is at the wheel. Comparison is fear’s henchman, scanning the world to find ways to make us feel small, unworthy, and behind in our life trajectory. And what an effective henchman it is! It’s effective in paralyzing us so we chase other
Is it all about Cry It Out when we work together?
NOPE. I do not believe in a “one size fits all” model when it comes to sleep training and sleep training methods. Every family has unique circumstances and needs. In order to be successful in sleep training your child, those factors have to be taken into account when developing an achievable sleep plan. My aim
On FREEDOM
I firmly believe that we create the reality we live in and experience through our thoughts, words, beliefs and actions. Being in a bit of a total life detox over the last 6 weeks has been blissful in hindsight and had moments when I felt like I was walking blind folded, barefoot, on broken glass.
On Balance: The Warrior/Buddha
Warrior/Buddha. Part of my human design is to embody both and learning to balance both, at the same time, has been a lesson in patience. I’ve wanted for some time to learn how to get realllllly good at setting & honoring compassionate boundaries. It wasn’t something I had ever been taught to do; either I
On Science meeting Spirituality
I love science AND spirituality. They go hand in hand for me. ❤️ I love and have so much gratitude for all the amazing things I learned in Graduate School about the mind and family/emotional systems. AND the last 5 years of focusing on and using holistic tools is what really allowed me to feel
On Choosing to Grow Forward
Making “the decision” is only the first step. Often our minds build up the choice to such a degree that we expect it to be easy once the choice has been made. The truth is, that’s when the real work begins. What feels like a big choice isn’t a big choice because of the consequences