Processing Grief (Unexpected Change)

Posted by Katie Kovaleski on April 20, 2020 in life coaching

We can’t spiritually bypass anger, sadness, frustrations, anxiety, or grief. We have to let them pass through us and when things are chaotic, to do that, free from numbing agents can be REALLY HARD.

I’ve felt A LOT of feelings this week and 90% of the time allowed myself to feel and then deal with it. I could judge myself for not doing enough work or getting ahead of my to do list or even complete it but my only goal for the week was to feel all my feelings and do it in as healthy of a way as possible. I.e. as little numbing or distracting as possible.

Give yourself time to feel, every day, step into the feelings that you want to run from, embrace your anger even if it looks messy AF and might be a bit of a crash landing.

This time in our lives will help us become really clear about what people, places and things add value to our lives or detract from it by the way they make us feel during this time period.

Trying to be our happiest selves right now if we are feeling unhappy will only lead us to more distress. It’s okay to feel whatever you’re feeling, get into your heart and out of your head. Let it move through you. You’re not alone. ❤️

🙏 “Emotions need motion. It’s important we acknowledge what we go through.”

“One unfortunate byproduct of the self-help movement is we’re the first generation to have feelings about our feelings. We tell ourselves things like, I feel sad, but I shouldn’t feel that; other people have it worse. We can — we should — stop at the first feeling. I feel sad. Let me go for five minutes to feel sad. Your work is to feel your sadness and fear and anger whether or not someone else is feeling something. Fighting it doesn’t help because your body is producing the feeling. If we allow the feelings to happen, they’ll happen in an orderly way, and it empowers us. Then we’re not victims.” – That discomfort you’re feeling is grief ~


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